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what are the kids into now

July 11, 2006

Just saw this link about emo on Ran’s blog. The article is a sort of ‘what are the kids into now’ thing.Ran mentions that it’s a lame attempt to understand the phenomena but let’s face it, an article that managed to explain how the emotionally deprived and abusive childhoods we give our children are bound to lead to this sort of thing would never have been published. This article could also never explain how emo is probably a very healthy response to the deprivations of childhood – that would be even worse/better.

I actually feel like hedging a little bit here because I’m having to rely on a mainstream journalist to explain emo to me. I’d bet the house that we’re getting a very distorted explanation.

And by the way, people who get upset over little things are not just mysteriously dysfunctional, the ‘little thing’ is a substitute for a much deeper hurt that the individual thinks they have no right to express. There was a coment in the article about middle class kids who moan too much. The statement makes the common inference that middle class kids must have been ‘given everything’ so how dare they complain. The fact that being given things as a substitute for genuine childhood attachment causes massive trauma in itself is never talked about. Being left without a proper explanation we revert to blaming the victim, the end result of which is to continue the abuse.

When I read something like this I always use the term abuse to describe the childhoods and then I think; ‘hey, it’s not really abusive is it? I mean it’s an exaggeration to say that normal childhood is abusive right?’. Most people would certainly think I was being ‘an extremist’ but then I remember that  to create a trauma, refuse to let the victim to express the hurt and blame them for everything is exactly how abuse works.

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One comment

  1. “And by the way, people who get upset over little things are not just mysteriously dysfunctional, the ‘little thing’ is a substitute for a much deeper hurt that the individual thinks they have no right to express.”

    Spot on. This is a devastating trend everywhere – the unease associated with actually expressing what the fuck you feel. People are brought up to fear their own feelings, which inevitably leads to suppression and BANG you’ve got problems.

    Posted by: Dan | 07/12/2006



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